What’s In Your Bag?

Note: This post was originally written in 2017, when I ended my Remote Year journey.

“Bag lady, you gon’ hurt your back, draggin’ all them bags like that. I guess nobody ever told you all must hold on to is you.”
Erykah Badu

Remote Year ended for me in mid-March. Though the program was officially over in January, I continued to travel with my fellow Battutas, keeping the dream alive (and the cult together) for as long as we could. As I packed my bags to depart from Bali, it was apparent that I couldn’t continue to tote this much weight. My last two trips required me to remove items from my checked baggage to avoid fees. In assessing what should remain, I realized the excess baggage was as much mental as it was physical.

So after 14 months, what did I end up putting down?

  • Two cars, a house full of possessions, and the very idea of “home”
  • A ridiculous Russian nesting doll of bags starting with a 120L duffel used to carry a 90L duffel, 35L duffel, a wet bag and a tote bag.
  • Ideas about who I was and my place in the world. Some were inherited, others were freely accepted over time but all were occupying the space needed to forge a new direction.
  • Past hopes, mistakes, disappointments and missed opportunities. Continually beating myself up over these things was a waste of mental energy.
  • Relationships that didn’t work or weren’t healthy. Some of these were hard to let go of but essential to moving forward.
  • Fears about changing at this point in life.

It’s important to periodically take stock and make sure that what you’re carrying is essential for your journey.

Excess baggage is costly.

So pack light (oooh, oooh)

CNPodcast: Retrospective #26

In the latest retrospective, I share some advice on dealing with praise and criticism, explore how poor communication can ruin good relationships and take on a new challenge (that’s really an old challenge).

Lessons Learned:

Praise and critique can both move you from your path and become distractions.

  • Don’t let emotions interfere with opportunity
  • Don’t be afraid to walk away
  • Stay centered – accept, process, integrate what’s needed and move forward

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CNPodcast #58: Mindshare – Managing Time and Attention

In this week’s episode, I explore the topic of mindshare, the things that get our time and attention. I share the ways that I’ve tried to help manage what gets my mindshare to balance my happiness and productivity.

Show Notes:

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#time #attention #mindfulness #selfcare #mentalhealth

#57: Facing Fear and Being Vulnerable

In this week’s episode, I share how I allowed fear to dominate much of my life choices. I break down the biggest fears that affected my life, what those fears cost me and what it finally took to start making different decisions.  I also explore vulnerability and how facing it can make or cost you the heavyweight championship.

Show Notes:

Show Picks:

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CNPodcast: Retrospective #25

In the latest retrospective, I explain what’s been happening during the break, share my inherent distrust of airlines and detail how I’m handling the quarantine and what’s changed about my future plans.

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CNPodcast #55: Productivity Physics

In this week’s episode, I take a light-hearted approach to discussing the physics of productivity. I’ll highlight some of the more popular rules that govern us and how our awareness of them can improve our work

Show Notes:

Mythical Man Month

Brook’s Law

Pareto Principle (80/20 Rule)

Parkinson’s Law

Hofstader’s Law

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A Big Deal (For Who?)

In this week’s episode, I talk about the need to understand relative impact. From seat reclining and font sizes to access ramps and viral infections, I discuss how empathy is an effective tool in understanding how things that aren’t a “big deal” to us can be huge issues for others.

“Being a calming voice in a sea of panic is one thing. Being reductive and dismissive is another.”

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CN Podcast: Retrospective #23

In the latest retrospective,  I share my latest experience with equipment failures abroad and how rewards/punishment have been affecting my weekly commitments. Whats a bigger motivation, 500 burpees or apple pie and ice cream dessert?

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The Ending Of Things

I’ve had to learn to become more comfortable with the ending of things.

I haven’t always gotten the endings that I’ve wanted.

I’ve often tried to keep things going just to avoid an unpleasant ending.

I’ve also returned to situations I should’ve left alone in order to “fix” the previous ending.

But that’s not how things work.

Some things end on a high note. Some things end in a messy way.

But regardless, they’ve end.

I’ve had to accept the fact that sometimes, the last conversation I had with someone is the last conversation I’ll ever have with them. 

Sometimes, it’s because it’s not possible to have another conversation.

Sometimes, it’s because there’s nothing left to be said.

But I still had to move on.

There’s always another ending to face.

Until the last one.

And getting comfortable with that may be the hardest thing.